One of the Danger Signs in a Relationship That Partners Often Don’t See Coming
In a related article here (Relationship Killers) it states the top behaviors that start to cause a break up or divorce.
There is one particular behavior there that often takes a partner by complete surprise and say “Where did i go wrong? I didnt see it coming!”
The silent relationship killer -taking a partner for granted.
Sometimes one has become so assured, so confident of a partner’s love, that one will tend to neglect, be complacent take a person for granted, thinking he or she will always be there. Make no mistake about it. No matter how seemingly faithful or loving a person is, unrequited love will always find its way to where he or she can feel loved, needed or wanted. Whether a partner is doing something wrong or not, if his or her partner is not fully satisfied with his or her attention, he or she will start seeking the attention somewhere else. Guaranteed. Then the partner will be shocked one day to find out, whether gradual or sudden, the partner will be saying goodbye.
“Where did I go wrong? I was faithful!”
Being faithful doesn’t stop there. It is not enough in making a partner content.
A good partner doesn’t only mean being faithful or the absence of affairs outside the relationship, but also of working on the relationship to make his or her partner feel needed, loved and wanted. So if a partner starts asking for your attention, begging for more time – LISTEN. That is a danger sign and it only means he or she is trying to save the relationship by communicating his / her feelings of an inadequate love or attention from you. If you do not heed this danger sign, it is a sure fire trigger factor that your partner will start looking somewhere else.
That is why in another article here, Love and Marriage: Advice for a Happy Relationship, I have mentioned loving 100%. Loving like there is not tomorrow, have a blameless kind of loving so that a content heart will not seek another. Never ever make the assumption that a seemingly faithful or loving partner will always be there. As long as a person feels something is missing, this is a small crack that leaves an opening and a weak spot, and once a person meets someone else who fills that gap, then this is the start of the downhill trend of your relationship.
Two-way communication is important – listen to what your partner is crying out for, or have a reality check communication with your partner if there are issues in his or her heart. Make it a habit to discuss regularly, whether it be positives but also more urgent are knowing the negatives. Listen when a partner is crying out for something from you. Repair little glitches and always keep in mind that keeping a person happy and content is the main objective to having a fulfilling happy healthy relationship.
Read a related article Love and Marriage: Advice for a Happy Relationship.
